Dating an 18 year old
But, my wife always more mature than her years would account for. Not sure why, just something seems unequal about that. As my fiancee says, "It's not the years, it's the mileage, babe." Not really sure what he means. I remember what I was like at 18, and I was a totally different person.
Guess I'll just have to deal with always having a wife 10 years younger than me. I'm 29, and I have to say that the idea of having a relationship with an 18-year-old feels slightly... Put me and the 18-year-old me in the same room, and we wouldn't like each other much.
If my son tried to date an 18 year old girl when his is 29, then I would be very upset. I have often said that since we were going to have sex anyways, I sure would have liked to meet her when I was fifteen . By the time my mother was 19 she had given birth to me and my father was 10 years her senior. Though when I was 22 I dated a girl who was 18 (still in high school), but the relationship couldn't go anywhere because we were at two very different places in our life and had little in common. Although I often do like guys who are younger, more than five years younger strikes me as really implausable for most women my age.
She was impressed that I took her out to dates in restaurants with real napkins. Sure, we're in enlightened times where it's no longer expected that the guy is older, but that big of an age difference is probably significantly skewed towards older men/younger women. She was in it for the sex, having a lot of energy to burn due to the situation at home (Dad had brain tumors, forcing her to forget about college to shoulder up the shack).
It was a little odd for me a year later when I was a 30-year-old who was dating a girl who was 19, but it wasn't hard to laugh it all off. Somehow a two week fling turned into a two year relationship. I mean there are plenty of 29 year olds that shouldn't be with other 29 year olds, and there are plenty of people who have a much smaller age difference, with it being more creepy.
Funny thing was that before she and I started dating, there were girls older than her that I rejected as being too young. But if it hadn't, that would have been fine with us, too. Like a 21 year old and a 17 year seems really sketchy to me. I'm sure there are thousands of 18-year-olds out there that I wouldn't have trouble having a relationship with in real life, but the abstract concept doesn't feel good.
(In terms of relationship experience, she was more mature than me in some ways.). Hell, I broke up with a 21 year old when I was 25 because our worlds were growing even further apart than they already were and it wasn't working out for me.
She might also think this is more just a casual thing even though nothing has been promised or implied. If she thinks it's more and he knows she thinks its more and doesn't correct that impression, then it is implied. 18 year old with a job and an apartment or 18 year old college student? I would hope most 29 year-olds wouldn't have much in common with an 18 year-old.
However "She might also think this is more just a casual thing even though nothing has been promised or implied" is a big no. When last I saw him, he was days away from 30 and now dating an 18 y/o. Last I heard, a couple months ago, they were still together and had just had a child together. When I was 19, my bf was 25, but a) it was a very serious relationship (we were together for about three years); and b) the age difference felt fairly significant to both of us. I know a guy in his late 20s/early 30s who periodically shows up at parties with 18-year-old dates. My impression is that he likes dating very young women because they're more easily impressed and don't expect as much as women his own age. Personally IMO marriage should be in your mid- or late- 20's.
If there's a chance that she thinks it's going to be more than casual, it's not going to work. Think about I used to know a guy who started dating a much younger girl. Also, most 18 year-old women aren't emotionally in a place to do a "casual sex" relationship the way a 29-y-o (man or woman, but esp. So if you take marriage out of the picture, I think it's not a bad learning experience at all.
As for the OP, it could work, if she was pretty mature for her age. He had recently broken up with his gf of 10 years after they'd realized that all they'd had in common for several of those years was once-a-week sex.
Or he's rather indulgent of her age-appropriate immaturity. The longest running job he had was 6 months and he was always late on rent, partied like crazy and basically acted like he was out on his own for the first time in his life. Don't know how much he's changed, but he was basically on the same level as an 18 y/o at that time. While 16 is the legal age of consent in most of the U. So boinkin' your teeny-bopper friend won't get you in trouble, but giving her a glass of wine with your home-cooked meal can get you in some deep shit. How the relationship evolved is another question altogether (those particular two are married, have teenage twins), but so long as both parts are being straightforward and neither is playing the other, I've got no problem with it. I do see a difference bwteen that and a 28 YO girl and a 39 YO man, for example. Honestly, I wish more and more teen girls put marriage later and later.